Heyyyy ladies and gents, some of you might remember me as Enezi.
I remember last time I got help on that other thread was...ohh man in sophomore year, 2 years ago, and I'm a senior now
Honestly speaking, I've had like one somewhat serious relationship and that's bout it. I think the main reason for that is just that I'm super picky, I don't get into unnecessary relationships if I don't feel that someone's completely "right" for me.
Just a little bit more background and I'll get to it. I just moved cities recently, so I'm at a brand new school for senior year (yeah, sucks). And then... I met this girl
So about this girl, I know it's cliche but she really truly is one of a kind. She's like super classy and is an individual, and she hasn't actually had a boyfriend, ever.
So anyways, at this new school, I kinda haven't mingled a lot, just a few friends from teams I play on and that's it, and I don't bother because I still visit my old friends every weekend or so (couple hours drive to the old city I lived it).
So she just came up and started talking to me a few weeks ago, and she seemed really interested in me. Almost immediately we like exchanged numbers and I didn't wanna rush into anything, so we're just good friends, but I'm crazy bout her.
This is like early-mid october ish I guess. Unfortunately we're both super busy people and our schedules just don't mesh, she's in my calc class, and we go out for coffee/lunch couple times a week, that's about it. I've been like dropping hints all this while, but either she's completely clueless or she just wants to play along, I honestly don't know.
But we like totally get each other, we just have so much in common and we totally get each other, and I really feel like she's "the one."
So anyways, she got asked out over the weekend before last, and apparently she had a fun time, and she was telling me all bout it so I was getting kinda sick of it, so I didn't like ignore her but we kinda had limited conversation for the past week.
Then last night she texted me saying that we should go out for coffee again soon and I was like sure, and then we just kinda kept talking. Then she said that this guy Tony, the guy she went out with, said that he needed time to think or something, and she'd been losing sleep for the past couple days over it, and she was like getting advice from me since she's "new at this stuff" (self proclaimed).
So then I helped her out, told her what to do, this went on til like late last night, then the dude gave her a definite response saying something along the lines that he just wasn't ready for a relationship blah blah blah and "it's me not you, trust me".
So then she was all broken up about this and basically pissed at life, and then I kinda had to like reassure her and whatnot. She then thanked me for being there and whatnot, and that was the end of the night.
So the tricky thing is that she's already cynical about love and relationships, and this happening just made it worse; I feel she's just gunna close herself off to any potential oppurtunities. The other thing that makes it tricky is that, like I said earlier, I'm at a new school and she's my only real friend, and I don't want that to get merked.
We had a bit of fun this morning, joked around before class and whatnot, and we'll go out for lunch tmrw.
So what do I do? Do I just keep trying like steadily? I was doing that until she got asked out by the other guy, so then I was regretting going slow, so I just don't know anymore.
Sorry bout the long ass wall of text guys, I tried to keep it readable, but I just thought I should let you guys know as much as possible so you fully get the situation. Thanks in advance, you people have never disappointed before