I just want to mention that.. Training hard, at high intensities, consistently will get you much better....... But not necesarrily will it make you play better in matches... You have to fix your mindset to perform at your peak... What does it for me is obsessing with winning, wanting to win a lot, and i stop focusing on my individual performance..I really want to win, so I go as hard as I can to those 50-50 balls, I get up for all the headers, I sprint up and down the field helping the team, and I'm so in the "i want to win" mood that I'm way out of my head..Things usually go my way in games now, I really perform to my maximum, but a thought that always helps is "fu** no, I fu**in trained harder than everybody here, i deserve this more
" Kinda gets me mad, agressive, etc. Confidence in the match for me, is kind of determined in the first 5 minutes. If I get to the field, and play as hard as possible those first 5 minutes, tackle hard, make energetic runs, get up for the headers, beat players when I have to, play fast and aggresively, i'll play the other 85 minutes with confidence and out of my head.
Try listening to your ipod, getting pumped, fired up, etc. Warm up properly, don't let your mind beat you son.
Many people have this problem, realize its common, and that it has a solution.
This maybe isn't an option to you, but here where I live theres a lot of football going in the streets, parks, alleys, wherever.. I go there often a ask to play and start playing.. On most we play 7 vs 7 , the team that score's 2 goals wins, and then the team that lost leaves the field, for other 7 players to get in and play, there are like 3-4 teams waiting to play, so theres no margin for error.. They really push you, they yell at you if you make mistakes, they tell you "beat the fear kid, beat the fear" they don't wanna loose, and they need you to play well, they kinda push you out of your comfort zone for you, its kind of play well or get in major trouble with lots of ghetto kids.. This really helped me, when I go to other places and play I'm the one that plays the hardest now....
Just do your best... Do your best... Thats all you have to do.
You really gotta be a tiger man, or a shark, whichever you prefer.. Your acting more like a little dolphin, mermaid, or pony, whichever you prefer