At the time of posting this I feel like sh*t. I just got into a fight with my mum, after I told her about a state titles tournament coming up, and that I wanted to trial for the team. I hesitated in telling her about it, and itcame out with little clarity, but she got pissed with me, and went inside the house saying to my step dad (.. Idk, some sh*t about joining some team and traveling to play matches) - that's all I heard. Then I remained outside, and I heard her muttering "everything's about soccer to him, school is all that should matter" - or some sh*t like that. I was getting tear-ry, so I just stood there outside, and she came out saying "get inside it's freezing out here fu**, what's your problem why are you out here still". I came inside , raised my voice and said "to get away from your bitching about me". My mum kept ranting at me denying it and going on about my attitude as I circled the house and ended the route by entering my room, shutting the door. I was slightly crying, and then she came in to my room and I just hid my tears by turning my back to her, pretending I was looking for something in my drawers. She eventually left, and continued ranting "fu**ing attitude, little sh*t!" ect... And I specifically heard her say "I'm never doing sh*t for that kid anymore, he can wash his own clothes, cook his own fu**ing dinner...". I was crying by now.
^ this is just an example, we are always having fights like this.
My step dad is not as vocal about it, but I know he doesn't support me. He use to have a soft spot for me. I remember after my first ever club game, I scored twice in a 4-2 win, and when we got home he was searching the web for semi pro teams for me. A couple of years later he coached my team, but some kind if drama with the parents of the players drove him away from the team, and he's never had anything to do with me and the team ever since. He actually came to one of my games a few weeks ago. I played very very well, man of the match and all, and still didn't get a compliment from him.
I do what I can around the house, I make time for looking after and playing with my little sister, IMO I'm a good son to my parents, I do more then most adolescents my age. Though, I apparently "hermit in my room, and only ever come out to scoff my face".
I'm very healthy, I eat as flawlessly as I can, I'm up before the son to train, and my parents have not once acknowledged my dedication and love for soccer, I know it's clear to them that this is what I want to do with my life, but they've never once appreciated what I do for the sport. My mum in particular is against me every time I go to the oval to train, especially if it's wet, she uses the weather as an excuse to try and keep me home whenever she can. When I say I'm going to the oval to her, all I hear is a "OK" with the biggest sigh I've ever witnessed, as if I just said I'm going out to binge drink with friends or something, that's how hostile her response is at times.
I've had various injuries before, particularly my knees, and she's just taken me to the doctor, who knows nothing, and he'll just tell me to take anti inflammitories. Physio is what I've needed in the past, but my mum just dubs me as a hypocondriact, and complains about the price of physiotherapy. To date I have sever's disease in my heels which was diagnosed by an eventual physio they decided to take me too, and I still have a fu**ed left knee, a minor problem in my right, and after games I feel like I'm an 80yr old with degenerated knees. I know I need to sort this out, but for this thread I'm not concerned about it, just ignore this for now, I'm posting for help for my problem with my parents.
I don't know what to do, I feel I can't make it as a pro without my parents support, how could I? I know that money is scarse in my family, but if they supported me, I know they could fork out the money to support my career (trailing semi pro teams and such), after all my step dad is bringing in big bucks right now as he's working away inter-state. He's spent the money on new Internet, a t-box (cable tv thing), a Wii console, and my little sister has been showered with toys lately, so the money's there, ive even heard my parents talking about how much he's made, and I specifically heard "$1900".
I don't think I'm ever going to get my parents on board with my soccer, but I know I have everything skill-wise, the mentality, dedication, ect... To make it.
I've recently mentioned to my mum about my back-up plan to soccer (sports coaching), and funnily enough she sounded on board with it all, telling me to go see my school careers advisor and stuff. I only feel like I need this back up plan and education because of the pressure my mum puts on me with school. She just told me after my last report that if I had got any 'D's', she would of made me cut back on training. She never mentioned this to me before, but luckily I resulted with 'C's' and two 'B's' - not a great report, but for me that's fairly solid, I always try and keep up to date with my school work.
This is getting long, so I'll end this.
Everything you need, is already inside.