Girls mess your mind

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Girls mess your mind

Post by DR17 » 22 Dec 2009, 23:32

Alright lads , does it ever happen to you. I love this girls and i can't get her off my mind. I even asked her out and she said no because she is too shy, i thought this would do it but no i still think of her. My football performances went from great to poor and my school grades are really bad since. Last year my average was 90 and this year it's 78 and i almost failed POP. How to overcome this ?

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Post by mister_rating » 22 Dec 2009, 23:51

Read "The power of now" by Ekchart Tolle.

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Post by panchester07 » 23 Dec 2009, 01:07

mister_rating wrote:Read "The power of now" by Ekchart Tolle.
What does that book have, I had it in my hands and I didnt read it because it didnt appeal to me particularly, do you recommend it? Why? What has it helped you with?
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Post by Fourstar » 23 Dec 2009, 08:20

Man, i don't get it. you're not dating the girl but your football and grades are going down. I'd hate to see how you would turn out if you actually were dating the girl.

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Post by powell » 23 Dec 2009, 12:26

Fourstar wrote:Man, i don't get it. you're not dating the girl but your football and grades are going down. I'd hate to see how you would turn out if you actually were dating the girl.
Umm better? Try understand, if your having trouble with a girl you like, you get confused, frustrated and all so, therefore your football and grades go down becuase you have 'other' things on your mind.

Now think it this way. If he was going out with her, would be happy, no worries, wouldnt be frustrated, etc therefore performs better in daily things.

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Post by panchester07 » 23 Dec 2009, 15:09

Amen to that perfect explanation -

Haven you heard a saying that "she completes me".. When you have a girl you love in your life, your heart dances. Your happy, you love life, anything you do you do it nicely and with the best attitude. Havent you been writting a paper when your mind starts digressing from the topic, and then you start thinking about other things but the paper, well one of those things you would think about is your girl friend, and thats a moral boost like no other - your thoughts would be something like Ill finiish this for her, or ill do it well so I can spend more time.. Either way your full of happy thoughts and self esteem, thinking that the person that means most to you, corresponds those feelings back..

I totally know where this guy is going with his grades going down..
Lack of success in an area, will affect other areas. Success in one area, will affect other areas, simple law..

You just do everything with a great positive attitude in those first 5 months, that everything you touch is gold..

On the other hand if you just got rejected, you willl be kind of dissapointed and everything you do will by floppy!
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Post by Rome_Leader » 23 Dec 2009, 15:51

I agree completely with panchester. If rejection from this girl is interfering with other important things in your life, then it's a question of how you're handling it. It's nothing to do with anything she's done that could be considered bitch-like, or anything. Besides, when you truly do find the right girl, it makes every part of your day seem better. That kind of reward is worth more than a few rejections along the way.
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Post by mint » 23 Dec 2009, 16:30

Just try not to think about it too much, do other stuff to take it off your mind like listenu to music, hang with friends etc.


I hate to sound mean but its onvious shes not into you as much as your into her or shed go out with you, you could try making her jealous by flirting with other girls?
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Post by mister_rating » 23 Dec 2009, 22:40

"The power of Now" shows you how to be always in the present. How to shut your mind off. The sh**load of thoughts makes your concentration go away.
Living in the present is the only way to live.. because you was and will always be in the present.

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Post by bom1221 » 24 Dec 2009, 02:24

i dont really understand how you could juggle football, friends, grades, AND a girl all at the same time. i have trouble just doing football and grades :?

my advice would be to forget about her for a while though. take some time to recover, see what the status of your relationship is, and then go from there

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Post by panchester07 » 24 Dec 2009, 04:41

bom1221 wrote:i dont really understand how you could juggle football, friends, grades, AND a girl all at the same time. i have trouble just doing football and grades :?

my advice would be to forget about her for a while though. take some time to recover, see what the status of your relationship is, and then go from there
baby that attitude will lead to lack of conficence and a possible depression..

Jk that was a little exagerated, but I was reading today that boredom and lack of self-confidence go together a lot, the activer you are, the more confident you are.. Not saying that youll have super extreme confidence, but it will increase..

The KEY in life is to find balance... Balance football - you need to exercise, school - you need to study and learn, balance social time - you need to acquiere social skills and personality, and a time to just waste because you need to rest....

If you dont have this balance or the scale is to much to one side, you wont feel happy or good about your life.. I.E 8 hours of football a day, but no studying, and no social time will make you a dull dumb person, and shallow on the inside...

Hope this helps, because I used to be that type of person that would go "all in".. I would say, well im gonna go all in in footy, become a pro and then socialize and study.. And I really got better, but I was far from happy.. Happines comes from success in one area, that transfers to the others..
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Post by Fourstar » 24 Dec 2009, 08:07

bom1221 wrote:i dont really understand how you could juggle football, friends, grades, AND a girl all at the same time. i have trouble just doing football and grades :?

my advice would be to forget about her for a while though. take some time to recover, see what the status of your relationship is, and then go from there
That's what i meant by my post with handling them all together. Plus what if he is with this girl and still all he can think about is being with her and keeping her happy being with him. Or she takes up most of his time, taking him away from football, and talking to him on the phone when he should be studying. And do believe that some girls make a guy totally quit doing something he likes to do just because it takes too much time away from her. That could mean he would quit playing football....it happens. But I don't know him or the girl so I guess I couldn't really say.

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Post by powell » 24 Dec 2009, 11:24

Fourstar wrote:
bom1221 wrote:i dont really understand how you could juggle football, friends, grades, AND a girl all at the same time. i have trouble just doing football and grades :?

my advice would be to forget about her for a while though. take some time to recover, see what the status of your relationship is, and then go from there
That's what i meant by my post with handling them all together. Plus what if he is with this girl and still all he can think about is being with her and keeping her happy being with him. Or she takes up most of his time, taking him away from football, and talking to him on the phone when he should be studying. And do believe that some girls make a guy totally quit doing something he likes to do just because it takes too much time away from her. That could mean he would quit playing football....it happens. But I don't know him or the girl so I guess I couldn't really say.
But if he was with the girl he would be happy. He'd love it! therefore he wouldnt be getting all frustrated.

And come on every guy knows you cant just 'forget' someone you like for a little while. Thats like asking a dog to meow. Maybe try giving her a backseat in your mind but trying forgetting her definatley wont help.

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Post by iwannagopro » 24 Dec 2009, 12:18

panchester07 wrote:
bom1221 wrote:i dont really understand how you could juggle football, friends, grades, AND a girl all at the same time. i have trouble just doing football and grades :?

my advice would be to forget about her for a while though. take some time to recover, see what the status of your relationship is, and then go from there
baby that attitude will lead to lack of conficence and a possible depression..

Jk that was a little exagerated, but I was reading today that boredom and lack of self-confidence go together a lot, the activer you are, the more confident you are.. Not saying that youll have super extreme confidence, but it will increase..

The KEY in life is to find balance... Balance football - you need to exercise, school - you need to study and learn, balance social time - you need to acquiere social skills and personality, and a time to just waste because you need to rest....

If you dont have this balance or the scale is to much to one side, you wont feel happy or good about your life.. I.E 8 hours of football a day, but no studying, and no social time will make you a dull dumb person, and shallow on the inside...

Hope this helps, because I used to be that type of person that would go "all in".. I would say, well im gonna go all in in footy, become a pro and then socialize and study.. And I really got better, but I was far from happy.. Happines comes from success in one area, that transfers to the others..
That's really, really good advice.

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Post by klc123 » 24 Dec 2009, 13:26

On the other hand if you just got rejected, you willl be kind of dissapointed and everything you do will be floppy!
Nice choice of words lol.

But seriously though, you just need to find the balance between everything, going one way too much isn't good, no matter what side its on. If someone spend their entire life studying, thats not living isit? whereas if they spent all their time socialising they would still be a waster because they would get no where in life, you need to fine the perfect balance between the two.

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